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Tongue-Tied...

And, then we come to something of a more personal nature.

Why is it that I can never find words to speak when the moment calls for words?

Oh, sure, at the most inconvenient moments, like at work or a similar setting, I can gab and gab and gab away. I find things to talk about. But at moments where the convenience is before me, where conversation is required, my mind draws a bloody blank.

I know I'm more of a listener than a talker. I've always been that way. I reflect my thoughts and ideas better in a text media than I can in person. It sucketh. I don't like large gaps of drawn out silence. It makes the other person think I don't care one whit for them, and that simply isn't true.

So, anyone got any suggestions on how to hold and keep a conversation flowing? Anyone, anyone? :) I would gladly take classes in this sort of thing, because I know I'd never, ever be considered a gabber. I am a person of few words.

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jessypi
Mar. 3rd, 2004 01:00 pm (UTC)
Check your local community college for a class called Interpersonal Communication. I cheated and took it instead of Public Speaking and I think it has helped me a lot deal one on one with other people.
jacobine
Mar. 3rd, 2004 01:37 pm (UTC)
I am able to talk someone's arm off, myself. About nothing at all, just yammering... This is to the point that the last serious ex once told me that he could tell when I relaxed around him, because I shut up.

But I know that feeling -- I have trouble talking about things of substance, about really holding a conversation. And I seem to constantly end up with people having no interest in further conversations or friendship.

/I/ liked talking to you at the con, at least. I'm not sure how to keep it flowing though, I admit; I'm rather bad at it myself.
khall
Mar. 4th, 2004 11:06 am (UTC)
       Remember jokes, funny stories, ancedotes. Be passionate about issues or ideas. Talk about them. Tell other people about them. It's even better if you can do it in an amusing way. Bitch about stuff. Offer problems, that you can't think of a solution for (and want an actual solution, if you're talking to a guy). Girls as pretty as you don't have to talk, really. You can just smile and life is good.

K.
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